What I love about this movie … before sunset – is that one night changed their lives forever. All love for them after that one night (before sunrise movie) – (I watched before Sunset first and then the Before Sunrise Movie) – became second.
What Before Sunset depicts is two people who reach the summit of love in just one night – not even all that sexual – and they both ached until they “accidentally” met again, to get back to that place.
During the nine years between meeting in “Before Sunrise” they both tried to get back to the love they felt that night with other people, but they never found it. They were wounded with love. They had both given up to find it and so romantic love stopped and because practical love. Both their lives were still good, but not romantic love.
They still held that memory deep inside of their truest love moment and this memory corrupted all their future relationship because it hurt to lose that. In the movie, they are lucky after 9 years to find each other again otherwise whole life would be sad. but that is rare to find because most break up is caused by pain not by accident. If they had done coaching with me, I would teach them to let go of the past and open their heart to the future because the odds of bumping into and still liking someone you met nine years earlier, for a single moment in time, is quite depressingly small.
I love this movie because it shows that even in one night two people can find perfect love. And they know that any relationship in the future that does not match that memory feeling is simply shit, compromise, just to survive.
That is life truth to me.
You really must be able to say to your lover, “I love you more today than yesterday, more than I loved in the past with anyone.” Otherwise – like the characters in the movie, so beautifully portrayed – you spend the rest of your life wishing the past could become the future. Some people get lucky and reconnect with an ex partner and rekindle the flame, but for most of us, we move forward and must, get back on track and open our heart to new and fresh opportunities to fall in love, boots pain and all.