Embracing Transition: Lessons from the Windy Heights of Ben Buckler

Chris, speaking from Ben Bukler amidst strong winds and massive waves, reflects on the concept of transition in life. He explains that everyone is always in some form of transition, whether it’s forced or voluntary. Transition, according to Chris, is crucial for growth and should be embraced even when it brings discomfort or pain. He emphasises the importance of being real and honest with oneself during transitions, shedding political correctness and addressing one’s true feelings and situations. Chris concludes by encouraging listeners to stay ahead of necessary transitions to maintain personal growth.

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Good morning, good afternoon, wherever you are. This is Chris Walker, speaking to you from the windy heights of Ben Buckler. As I stand here, braving the gale-force winds and watching the spectacular waves, I’m reminded of the importance of transition in our lives. Today, I want to share some insights on this topic, drawing from my personal experiences and professional journey.

Experiencing the Power of Nature

Standing on Ben Buckler, the wind is blowing at 35 to 40 knots, and the real feel is a brisk 8 degrees centigrade. Despite the cold, the sight of the waves crashing against the rocks is breathtaking. The waves, held up almost vertically a kilometre out to sea, unleash massive volumes of water as they crash into the rocks, sending splashes up to my level, 20 metres above the ocean. This powerful display of nature serves as a perfect metaphor for the transitions we face in life.

The Importance of Transition

For many years, I was known as the “transition man.” People would come to me only when they needed to navigate a significant change, much like visiting a dentist when in pain. Over time, I realised that everyone is always in some form of transition. Whether it’s a desperate situation, peaceful growth, or something in between, transition is a constant in our lives. Understanding and managing these transitions effectively is crucial.

Embracing Change

Transition often comes uninvited, triggered by events like the loss of a loved one, job loss, health issues, or financial difficulties. These moments, though challenging, are essential for growth. Recognising the need for change and embracing it, even when it is forced upon us, is the most important thing we can do.

The Danger of Stagnation

The worst situation is when we believe we don’t need transition. Like a stagnant pond that turns into a swamp, a life without change becomes stale and unproductive. It’s crucial to continually identify the transitions we need, even if they are not immediately apparent. This awareness is more important than setting goals or defining a purpose.

Seeking Help in Transition

It’s vital to seek outside help during transitions. Trying to navigate change on our own often leads to repeating the same mistakes. A transition coach or therapist can provide the necessary guidance to move from point A to point B effectively. They can help break the cycle of repeating old patterns and create a path to genuine change.

Overcoming Belief Systems

We often get addicted to our belief systems, whether religious, philosophical, or otherwise. These frameworks can sometimes be the root of our discomfort. In transition, it’s important to confront these constructs honestly and openly, free from political correctness. This brutal honesty is necessary for real change.

Managing Energy and Self-Worth

Our energy levels directly impact our self-worth. When we’re exhausted, it’s often because we’ve been giving our energy away to meet others’ expectations. Managing our energy is crucial during transitions, as it helps maintain our self-worth and ensures we have the strength to navigate change.

The Reality of Transition

Being honest with ourselves is the hardest part of transition. Social norms and political correctness often prevent us from facing the truth. Authenticity is not about expressing our thoughts and feelings to others but about owning them ourselves. This self-awareness is key to effective transitions.

Staying Ahead of the Curve

Transitions are a constant part of life. Embracing them before they become necessary can keep us ahead of the curve. By proactively making changes, we can avoid the pain of forced transitions and continue to grow and evolve.


As I sign off from Ben Buckler, watching the massive waves and surrounded by an unexpected audience, I hope these insights on transition resonate with you. Remember, transition is not just a part of life; it’s a vital process for growth and self-improvement. Embrace it, seek help when needed, and always strive to stay ahead of the curve.

Transition Man, signing off

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