In one single glance you can know everything that is about to happen in a room.
Intuitions are rarely wrong. Emotions however are often wrong. Knowing this difference is the difference between success and failure. When you walk into a room you get about 2 seconds to scan what’s about to happen. The look on people’s faces, the body language, the tone, what i used to describe in training programmes as the drop knife test. Which simply asks how thick is the atmosphere. Slow drop, there’s trouble afoot. Practicing the art of observation is a life skill. A key skill in all aspects of life: relationship, sport, business, parenting. I’ve practiced observation for nearly 60 years. SInce i was 5 years old where it meant the difference between being beaten, hit across the face and knocked unconscious. Later, it meant the difference between a jail term or a knife in the belly and a clean escape. Further into my life it was the difference between success and failure in exams and then in surfing, between winning and losing. This intuitive gift I have is not a birth gift. It was survival. It build four successful business, chose an uncomfortable number of marriages and when to exit them. It has guided me, build everything and saved my life over and over and over in the Himalayas. Intuition is my connection to everything and I can honestly say, it is never, ever wrong. Only now, after all these years of practice and trial and error, i can trust it emphatically. I can taste a lie, smell success, feel tensions, and most important I can see when a heart is open in its truth. All this, I have learnt and it’s an incredible gift from survival to the study of human nature. Today i will share a few drills that helped me.
TOTAL Recall Exercise
Spontaneous recall of detail is a valuable talent. It aids in the development of intuition which sits behind and supports: presence, acute awareness, ability to visualise detail of visions. It is also a powerful tool when undertaking any form of negotiation. Observation of another persons actions and facial features is a critical ingredient for success. The exercise that can hone this skill is:
Take a step toward open door leading to a room. Look in, give one quick glance at the contents of the room, then step back out. While out of sight of anything in the room recall one article that is in the room describe it. This is the first step. The same article must not be included in the next round. Go again to the door, look into the room then step back again. Now recall two articles that are in the room, excluding the first one. Repeat by taking a third look, only for a fraction of a second and remember 3 new articles. Keep repeating this process remembering more new articles each time. Make sure you are always going out of sight of the room in between peeks. Naming the 4,5,6,7 articles that are seen in that fraction of a second. Continue until you cannot remember the appropriate number of articles. You can do this exercise anywhere, even waiting for your coffee on the street, turn, look at the street then back and do the recall exercise. Practiced over time this hones intuition and observation.
One drill i did practice in Zen was the softening of focus using peripheral vision. Hard focussed eyes are considered the forerunner of mental health problems. Soft eyes are the sign of balance, centred and calm attitude. An angry person with soft eyes is in control. An angry person with hard eyes, staring at you, is a danger. Here is an exercise you can do even while driving but please start with your computer screen.
Peripheral vision means the width of view a person can absorb. It is possible to train the eye to take in a much larger panorama of life and therefore remain steady, even in tense situations. A person who is violent or in anger or rage will have no sense of peripheral vision. Practice each day, holding your arms outstretched, with hands to either side of your body at face level and moving them into and out of sight of your peripheral perspective. You are looking straight ahead, observing the front view as well as the sides. Start with your arms outstretched to the sides where you cannot see your hands then, move your arms toward the front slowly and once your hands become visible try to hold that perspective as well as the forward awareness as long as possible. Even move your hands back a bit to see if you can improve your awareness to the sides. Do not lose focus on the forward position. See if you can achieve 180 degrees of vision focus. This is a powerful presence. Bruce Less practiced this all his life and singers, speakers and television actors practice it as well.
PROCESS OR OUTCOME?
Prioritise process over outcome When we are attached to an outcome the process of getting something becomes devalued in the interest of the result, we destroy the joy. You may build a house but if you forget the little things, the joy of doing along the way, the house will cost more than you can ever imagine. The person who comes to work and has lost the joy and love of the day to day will start sabotaging the process of achieving what they really want. What are the four major things you need to do every single day so that, if you do them with great diligence, the outcome you want, is assured. In this way, you can create daily habits, that, if you really stick to with absolute diligence, your future will manifest.This is an exercise:
This exercise is called set and forget. Take a piece of paper and write on it a single important outcome you would love to achieve today. Put that piece of paper in an envelope and seal it. Put the envelope away somewhere out of sight. Now ask:”what are the four things that if i do that four things all day today, that will guarantee that outcome will be done perfectly. For example: you might say “write a speech” put that in the envelope. Now, what four things: 1. Define my single objective or the speech. 2. Think up bullet points that make that single objective proven. 3. Recall and draft four great stories one for each of the bullets and maybe a few spare just in case. 4. Piece it all together starting with the finish. Allocate an hour for 1,2,3 and more for #4. and just enjoy each time capsule. Use your skills to avoid interruptions in each capsule and take nice welcome time out in between to have a laugh, a stretch and reward with a cup of tea etc. (no sugar or white carbs).
“The Power of the mind.“
Chris “Einstein” Walker