DAY 13. LEADERSHIP

THE PERSON WITH THE GREATEST CERTAINTY LEADS – BUT WHAT IS CERTAINTY AND HOW DO YOU GET IT?

THE PERSON WITH THE GREATEST CERTAINTY LEADS… BUT 50% OF THE WORK YOU DO AS A LEADER IS LOADED WITH UNCERTAINTY… HOW DOES THIS ALL COMPUTE?

YOUR VISION QUEST HOME WORK TONIGHT (plus audio at the very bottom of the page)

There is no greater certainty than the undeniable fact that you will one day be gone from this body. One must be able to celebrate that fact as much as the next birthday. It is not a rush to squeeze every drop out of life but more an awareness that what we do may evaporate with us. Our ancestors will not remember us, not more than one or two generations and then it will be nothing to do with who you liked and who you didn’t. What they remember will not be your pushups or sex romps, things that we find fascinating will die with us. And this brings us to today’s homework. Doting on a child as some form of immortal imprint on this planet is deluded. The universe owes you nothing for your eggs or sperm. The job was easy. It owes you nothing for raising a child, you can never do that without good and bad balance as a result. Better parenting is a childish notion. One that helps aimless people who have given up on life suck a few last morsels out of a mundane reality. What will be remembered will be the immortal impact you had. Everything you stand for will be stood against. Neutralised. Everything you celebrate as an emotional high will evaporate with its opposite.

I know this is a morbid sort of topic but life isn’t an end game. What you do while you are here is a chance to leave an imprint but you must get past the idea that this has anything to do with your bloodline, children, grandchildren. That’s all mortal and goodness knows, there is no certainty where that’ll end up. Just ask Hitler’s Parents. …..

Tonight, alone out back or where you sit, take pen and paper, as if you are actually going to deliver a eulogy at a funeral, but make it your own. Write the eulogy you’d ideally deliver about your life and the footprint you’ve left in the world outside your bloodline. Finish it with the words you’d love to have written on your tombstone or plaque. Then go in and share it or simply read to yourself out loud. this is always a part of a vision quest.

TODAYS STUDY – BELOW

EMOTIONAL SHOWER ON CERTAINTY

UNCERTAINTY +VE

  • Leads to Growth
  • Opens New Doors
  • Keeps You Relevant
  • Prevents Blind spots
  • Causes collaboration
  • Finds Opportunity
  • Tests Commitment
  • Is Deep
  • Dives Within (innerwealth resolves)
  • Inclusive
  • Beyond Intellect
  • Humour and Smile
  • Authentic
  • Triggers Appetite to Explore
  • Keeps us Young
  • Makes us Wonder (options)
  • Helps Drive us Above Problems
  • Stops Repeating – Innovation
  • Competitive Awareness

UNCERTAINTY -VE

  • Feels Insecure
  • Doubts
  • Unsure
  • Worry
  • Stress
  • Anxiety
  • Others not follow
  • Break Trust
  • Breeds itself
  • Repelling
  • Dependency
  • Not Respected
  • Failure
  • Second guess self
  • Can’t lead
  • Defensive
  • Reactive
  • Confused
  • Insecure
  • Others take over
  • Rapid ageing

CERTAINTY +VE

  • Is leadership
  • Enables Trust
  • Prevents Reaction
  • Is Rock Solid
  • Is Inspired
  • Respected
  • Valued
  • Essential for achievement
  • Absolute Satisfaction
  • Extremely Relaxing
  • Creates Inner Stillness
  • Fearless
  • Magnetic to others
  • Bulletproof
  • Resilient
  • Strength of ten people
  • Time Saver
  • Grounded
  • Visionary
  • Confidence in self
  • Success

CERTAINTY -VE

  • Agressive
  • Assertive
  • Challenged by insecure
  • Questioned
  • Under Attack
  • Can be hard/cold
  • Lonely
  • Isolating
  • High Maintenance
  • Very Personal
  • Triggers Wounds
  • Always Vulnerable to change
  • Requires Discipline
  • Costs in Home Life
  • Opposite is True elsewhere
  • Investment daily Time
  • Lifelong Learner
  • Responsible
  • Competitive attack
  • Needs Coaching
  • Can Get Stuck in Head

THE PERSON WITH THE GREATEST CERTAINTY LEADS BUT THERE’S A MASSIVE INVESTMENT TO MAINTAIN IT…..

THREE STORIES FOLLOW…

#1. LEADERSHIP IS RELATIONSHIP

2# COACH EM UP OR OUT – ONE STEP AHEAD

3#. UnFUCKWITHABLE


The secret to great leadership is to be the meat (or peanut butter if you’re vegetarian) in the sandwich. If you think you the highest, you missing the point, if you don’t accept you are the highest relative to your team, you miss the point. The point of leadership is to be both student and teacher all at once….

CHRIS – “Napoleon Bonaparte” – WALKER


ALL PEOPLE YOU LEAD WHO ARE IN GOT TO UP TO NEED TO MUST BE LEAD FROM THE FRONT (MOTIVATION)

LEADERSHIP FROM THE FRONT AND BACK – WHEN TO CHOOSE ….

In Nepal, for over 55 trips, people paid me to lead them into dangerous places. One minute I would be leading from behind, the next from the front. But it was always leadership and they paid me for it. The most challenging part was coming back down after we had reached the summit of Gokyo Re or Base Camp. Why?

  1. There was nothing to fear.
  2. There was no longer any danger (of altitude sickness)
  3. They knew the way
  4. They grouped with people they liked (group think)
  5. They were all 100% motivated to get home (mission complete)
  6. They had enough
  7. They wanted a nice bed and great food
  8. They felt powerful meeting others going up (giving advice)
  9. They’d achieved something rewarding
  10. They knew plan b and could implement it.

I think it’s pretty important to know that the same people who loved my leadership from the front going up, demanded it from behind going down.

So, from this it would seem that leadership is conditional on circumstances.

Lead from the Front When: (MOTIVATION)

  1. There is allot of uncertainty about the future
  2. People are keen to mitigate danger, risk or fear
  3. Things are rapidly changing
  4. People lack experience (guessing)
  5. People have asked you, pay you, to lead
  6. You’ve done it before and they haven’t (empowered)

Lead from behind when: (INSPIRATION)

  1. People are engaged in the destination
  2. People want to go to the result
  3. Risk of failure is small
  4. Fear is negligible
  5. They have some experience
  6. They collaborate with others
  7. They have a clear mandate to implement plan b
  8. The feedback is positive

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