Individualism – A New Era for Self Management in Business.

J.Walter Thompson just released a significant and expensive report on the “Single Age” in which they link individualism, with a massive trend for people to remain single for life. They write:

“Individualism is on the rise, bringing with it a new set of values. In an age defined less and less by traditionalism and more by self-expression, independence and authenticity, singledom is a natural evolution alongside job hopping, coliving, sexual openness, digital connection and a nomadic workforce. The Single Age explores the shifting habits and expectations of this growing global and multi-generational cohort; the cultural groundswell reframing single people as they really are—confident, fulfilled and empowered; and the implications for brands and marketers.

J Walter Thompson

How Will this Impact You?

More of your team at work, potentially your children, and friends are going in the direction of individualism. Self expression, independence, and authenticity are going to be valued more and more. This will have significant impact on your business career:

  • People will not tolerate leadership that stifles contradictions in opinions. You are going to have to deal with more creativity, diversity of opinion in the “best way to go” in most areas of life.
  • You’re going to have a significant increase in errors in your process as individuals strive for independence they will be wanting to learn for themselves and hence by experience.
  • Fake will not cut it. Good hearted, well balanced and respectfully mannered people will rise to the top while the arrogant and bullish old style of rude and crude, but we make it happen, will be “a part of history” the “dinosaurs of business” will be left in the past.

What does this mean for your personal development?

  • Your understanding of human nature must stretch beyond the dinosaur models of “Maslow, Personality tests, Age categorised behaviour models (millennials) etc. It will be too complex to define individuals by any such antique approach to human development and work performance. A more holistic approach to human nature is needed that cuts across age, gender, era, style … in order to embrace the individualism that all teams will experience.
  • You will need to know yourself much better than ever before as the microscope of authenticity will bounce back directly at you. This means the old “you can’t really see what’s going on in my private life” will be extinct and you’ll therefore have to “turn up” even if things aren’t going perfectly “off the ball” at home.
  • You’re going to come up against systems that refuse to change due to old school networks of “partnerships” and “old boys” where individualism is seen as disobedience or non conformity to strict cultural norms. This means greater dexterity and skill at managing upward.

What does it mean at home?

  • Less tolerance will be given to extended periods of “out of balance” as lost respect by family will lead reactions and rejection of your guidance. Disharmony with children will be accentuated if you are not really living your true self. (living vicariously through children will have greater consequences than ever)
  • Resolving work conflicts at home will no longer be viable. Your family and friends will no longer serve as the churn room for personal problem solving and option development. All high performance business exec’s will therefore need objective sounding boards and independent coaching from outside their firm and family. This industry will be a significant growth market.
  • Happier, balanced and calmer individuals will thrive as leaders. They will be the individuals with massive soft skill capability applied firstly to themselves and secondly to others.

What to do about it?

  • Learn how to explore yourself and others with “total human awareness” – the whole person comes to work and therefore needs to be considered in a more human way for performance management.
  • Break away from scripted formula for group management and rather skill up on bringing more of your total humanity to work. Results must be balanced with process.
  • Learn to detect trouble early. Individualism comes with mighty problems. It can lead to undetected mental and emotional health issues going unchecked, it can lead to group poisoning by those with the biggest personal troubles masked under individualism banners, and it can lead to excuses for poor performance such as blame validated under the banner of pride and free speech. Smaller voices need a platform other than conflict and aggression to be heard.

Next steps?

  • Shorten the waiting period between emotional, mental and personal problem and resolution. Learn new skills in self-management for fast, conscious and sustainable mind, mood and heart happiness.
  • Be clear on your long, medium and short term ambitions then set and forget. Once ambition is set, focus on process – make it heart driven.
  • Fully study “Total Human Awareness” so as not to be reactive to partial information.
  • Hire continual personal coaching to both educate on prevention and move process for trouble shooting before respect is lost in order to maintain authenticity.

Individualism and your High Performance Self Management for Business training

For many years Corporations have made the mistake of compartmentalising the development of people with the aim of increasing productivity and yet, the total human being, the heart, quality of life, relationship and other aspects of the human condition have been ignored. As we enter an era of hyper accelerated decision making the demands on individuals to bring their total capacity to work, including their heart, creativity, inspiration and non rational intellect, means we need a new understanding of “the Total Human Dynamic.” We are people first and fragmentation doesn’t exist. We must restore and preserve that awareness.

Is somebody distracting your focus? What to Do…

You can please others and piss yourself off, or please yourself and piss others off, but you’ll become totally messed up trying to do both.

When you infatuated with others and put them on pedestals you tend to minimise yourself and desire to change yourself relative to them. You tend to inject their values into your life and attempt to live according to their values. Your, now unconscious, but true values, become momentarily overridden by your assumed conscious, but now false values. You hear within you imperatives like”I got to,” or “I have to” or ” I should” or “I ought to” or “I’m supposed to.” “I need to.” This attempt to change yourself relative to them leaves you futilely ungrateful for yourself. Attempting to be someone you are not is ultimately futile. Your true hierarchy of values dictates what your observations are, what your decisions are, and what your actions are and therefore your destiny – not someone else’s.

Envy is ignorance Imitation is suicide – Ralf Waldo Emerson.

When you resent others and put them in pits you tend to exaggerate yourself and desire to change them relative to you. You tend to inject your values into their life and attempt to have them I’ve according to your values. You hear within you imperatives like “You got to,” or “You have to” or “You  should” or “You ought to” or “You’re supposed to.” “You need to.” This attempt to change them relative to you leaves you futilely ungrateful for them. Attempting to make someone they are not is ultimately futile. Their true hierarchy of values dictates their destiny – not yours.

When you want to change yourself relative to others or when you want to change others relative to you, you are not recognising the hidden order and you are ungrateful for what is, as it is. Your human will is attempting to change divine will or “what is.”

When human will attunes to nature’s will there is freedom

Nature cannot be commanded except by being obeyed. Let us learn the laws of nature and we shall be her masters.

Fancis Bacon.

Rumi — ‘Yesterday I was clever, so I wanted to change the world. Today I am wise, so I am changing myself.’

As I am so I see – Ralph Waldo Emerson

You say you don’t like to be lied to by your friends, or in your business dealings. So why would you want to be lied to when it comes to the origin of life or the fate of the universe or world? You don’t want to be duped because you want to get to the truth. You are a truth seeking missile, an organism that searches for truth. But there are other parts of your (lower) mind that militate against the truth, that want to be walled off from actuality. Such as the part of your mind that concerns itself with how you look to yourself and to others, the self deceptiveness that makes you want to project the most positive image or not – your self serving bias. You, like most people, believe that you are above average in any positive self trait or if not yourself then certainly the group that you belong to.

You only want to make a difference in that which you do not love i.e in that which you infatuate with (desire to change self) or resent (desire to change other). What you condemn you breed. What you infatuate with you undermine.

Most people just get by. They love within their so-called comfort zones. They attempt to just fulfill their immediate needs and wants. They eventually end up living or depending upon social security. They experience frustration and function from a level of quiet desperation. They do not love what they do, nor do what they love: nor do they let their inspirations run their loves. Because most people oscillate between injecting the values of perceived authorities in to their lives and then projecting their values onto perceived sub-ordinates – they end up envying, imitating and living their lives with other people’s “should’s.”

Any area of your life you don’t empower someone else will overpower. They hierarchy of your values determines where you will be in power and overpowered. Order and power occurs with your higher values and chaos and powerlessness occurs with your lower values. there are no victims. You innately have an evolutionary will to power that is limitless. When individuals have disemoowermnet in the following fiver areas (mental, vocational, financial, social and physical)n and they have partial empowerment in the following two areas: Spiritual and family – then they are highly vulnerable to and attract counterbalancing domestic violence. When nations or cultures have disempowerment in the following five areas (mental, vocational, financial, social and physical) and have partial empowerment in the following two areas (spiritual and family) then they are highly vulnerable to and attract counterbalancing domestic dictator violence.

Seek truth, it’s the only thing that will satisfy, even if it hurts

Chris Walker
  • STEP 1. Take the power back by not reacting
  • STEP 2. Walk away and don’t try to fix things
  • STEP 3. Look for solutions like “AND” rather than “OR”
  • STEP 4. Pick your fights… some things are just not worth fighting over
  • STEP 5. Know your priorities. Only wrestle with your highest value

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